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How To Select Women That Are Open To Approach

The first thing a man should do when trying to hook up is obviously to survey the market. 

If you’re a master at approaching women you can approach anybody you want but for the rest of us, we need to up our chances a little by prequalifying the available resources and figuring out how to select women that are open to approach.

About 90% of the difference between someone who’s really good with women and someone who’s mediocre with women is the ability to spot a woman who is open to approach. 

This sounds unrealistic, but logically it makes sense.  If you walk into a bar and go up to any woman without knowing what signs to look for, your odds of success go way down.

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Women WANT to be approached and hit on

About 90% of the difference between someone who’s really good with women and someone who’s mediocre with women is the ability to spot a woman who is open to approach.

You must know how to select women that are already in this receptive state, so you can walk up and be “that guy.”  Don’t buy into the myth that women don’t want to be picked up.  Women want to be approached and picked up just as much as men want to hook up.

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Many times, men and women don’t hook up because so many guys are afraid to go for it. 

And when this doesn’t happen, the girls end up going home alone or worse…becomes bitchy to the guys in the bar/being resentful and angry because no one’s approaching them.  There are a few excellent indicators that will (especially in a bar atmosphere) tell you if a woman is game, or open to approach.


How to select women that are open to approach? What to look for:

1) Where is she looking?

The first indicator is a woman looking down often. When a woman looks down, she is accessing her emotions.  When we look in different directions, we access different parts of our brain. These are called “Eye Accessing Cues.”  When a woman is in a bar setting and looking down, she’s accessing her emotional brain.

If she makes eye contact with you, looks down then back up again, she’s saying: “I have an emotional response to you looking at me and I’m looking down.”  And if she tilts her head down as well, she’s physically dropping herself a little bit lower and showing submission. 

Women who are open to approach should automatically take the submissive role as a woman. That’s one quality which shows you’ll be successful with her.

2) Eye contact

Another quality is that she’s actively looking around to make eye contact. This is crucial. A woman who is engaged with someone specifically and not looking away is not going to be as open to approach. 

So instead, if you see a woman who is in a conversation but constantly looking around and trying to make eye contact with other people, this is probably a very good opportunity for you and that’s a woman you can walk up to and start building rapport.

3) Body language

Other traits are revealed in the way they’re moving. Let’s say she’s standing with her feet about shoulder-width apart. It’s less likely that a woman standing like this is going to be available for you to walk up and dominate. That’s because she’s standing in a dominant position, with stronger body language and she’ll probably be a lot more resistant. 

Instead, you want to find a woman who takes up less space. She has her legs closer together and seems to be outside of a group, looking around a little bit.

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4) How is she dressed?

Another thing is the way she’s dressed. If she’s dressed in a way that’s super flashy and attracting lots of attention, she probably isn’t the kind of girl you can walk up to and easily start a conversation. 

These kinds of women are looking for attention – not for someone to dominate them. What you want is someone who’s in between “I don’t care” and “Stare at my tits!” Somewhere between wearing sweatpants to done up really, really beautiful and sexy with a low-cut shirt.

A lot of women who are on vacation fall into this realm.  They don’t want to over dress or under dress, and don’t know how the bar atmosphere is going to be.  They’ll usually come in open-minded, and start looking around trying to make connections.  This is an excellent situation for you (and her, of course).


If you see these cues, approach! If not, approach anyway!

That’s what to look for and how you spot her in the first place. If you see some of these cues, watch her for a second and if you think that she is open to approach then proceed.  If not, proceed anyway, just to see what happens.  You need the practice…

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