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How To Pick Up Girls – The Step By Step Pickup Guide

Mystery’s M3 pickup model has everything you need to know about the basics of seduction. Seduction can actually be broken down like a scientific experiment.

The M3 model, like the scientific method, is an approach to solve a problem, and what bigger problem is there than how to pick up girls?

However, many guys may look at that and be like in multivariable calculus: blank stares mixed with a little bit of fear and disgust.

For those of you put off by the technical aspect of the M3 model, The following is the simplified version on how to pick up girls: the step by step pickup guide.

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The step by step pickup guide in a nutshell

The simplified version of picking up girls is basically broken down into 3 steps:

1) Approach

2) Attract

3) Connect

Boiling everything down to 3 steps makes it much easier to learn, memorize, and recognize what stage you are in so you can escalate accordingly.

How to pick up girls:

Basically, it works like this: first you approach the target and get in with an opener so the woman becomes receptive to what you have to say.

Then you have to get the woman attracted to you, or at the very least, interested.

After the woman is interested, you have to hook her and reel her in by establishing connection.

1) The Approach

Approaching a random woman is perhaps one of the most intimidating things you can do. There is no magic spell to get over this fear. Like any fear, you have to face it and then overcome it. Here’s a great resource to do this.

The best way to overcome fear of approaching women and the consequent approach anxiety is to do it over and over and over until you get desensitized to it. Let’s get this straight: you WILL crash and burn and get rejected many times in the beginning when just learning how to pick up girls.

If this prevents you from picking up girls, you should give up now and become a monk. However, as you gain painful experience, rejection will get easier to handle, if not less painful, until the day comes when you hardly get rejected at all. Rules to follow when approaching women:

step by step pickup guide1) Follow the 3 second rule. Approach her within 3 seconds of spotting her.

2) Never open with a filler or apology like, “Excuse me,” I’m sorry but,” “I couldn’t help noticing,” “I have to tell you,” “If you’re not too busy.” These make you sound unconfident and like a beggar.

3) Never, ever give her a generic compliment, especially if she’s pretty. You’ll just be one of the many boring chumps that week that told her how pretty she is and give her more power.

4) Don’t buy her a drink or flowers or whatever else to get her attention. You can’t buy her interest. Buying her stuff  serves to shows her that you’re so pathetic, you have to try and buy her interest.

5) Don’t come off as too eager, desperate, or anxious. Women are experts in body language and what is more unattractive than a desperate guy eager to do anything to please her?

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2) The Attract

When you have successfully approached a woman and she is actually ready and willing to listen to what you have to say, you only have an instant to sell yourself. Consider this stage as the “elevator pitch.”

You are in an elevator with Mark Zuckerberg and you have until the duration of the elevator ride to pitch him your awesome business idea and get him interested in you.

The attraction stage of picking up women is exactly like that. You have a couple minutes to sell yourself and gain her interest before she dismisses you as not having potential.

Women are attract to your perceived value, and to gain her interest, your perceived value has to equal or surpass her own value. There are two ways to do this. You can either raise your value or you can lower her value. Raising your value is done through a pickup artist technique called DHV (demonstrate high value) and lowering her value is done through the pickup technique called negging.

1) Demonstrating high value (DHV)

Demonstrating high value means that you are doing something or showing her that you are worthy of her attraction and interest and can provide her with something of value. She has to feel that you add value to her so is worth her time. This is done through pickup artist gimmicks, tricks, routines, or just exuding a sense of value like the rich, powerful guys naturally do.

2) Negging

Negging is a sort of a playful antithesis to the compliment. The goal is to tease her playfully so that her value goes down a little bit. A neg should never come off as an insult but more of a tease to provoke a response from the woman.

Beautiful women especially have such high value that unless you can pull off an extremely high value to meet hers, it is best to lower her value a little by negging her. Some effective negs are:

  • You like shopping for clothes at Walmart, don’t you?
  • Isn’t that purse last year’s model?
  • I like your hairstyle, very 80’s.
  • You shouldn’t be drinking any more, you’re already not making sense.
  • I know a very cheap gym you might like.
  • You’re like a little sister, cute but annoying.

OR CHECK OUT: Opening lines that work


The Connect

Making a connection is the longest and most enjoyable phase in a successful pickup. Once you’ve established mutual attraction and the hard part’s over, it’s just a matter of getting to know each other. You just talk, enjoy each others’ company, and make emotional and physical connections.

This is the stage where you also escalate your kino (physical contact). Making a connection is primarily  done through having a deep conversation and establishing similar threads. You can talk about your vulnerabilities and childhood experiences here as well to really establish a deep connection.

You can read about and try out the gimmicks and routines to establish emotional connections with a woman, but nothing works better than having a genuine conversation and getting to know each other through the things you have in common.


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